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Week 17 – Being YOUnique

Now that we’re in Week 17 of our 26-Week Master Key Journey, we are nearing our “destination” of a new self.  And we’ve been advised that temptations may arise to slip back into our old habits.

As a result, Paul Simon’s “Slip Sliding Away” has been running through my head all week.  I haven’t been able to get it out of my head!

Perhaps it’s because we ARE nearing our destination, and perhaps it’s because it has been a challenging week for me on a person level.

While there is much to be thankful for about my present, recent events have reminded me of feelings of sadness, loss, and isolation…especially because I’ve been reading:

Since the beginning of time never has there been another with my mind, my heart, my eyes, my ears, my hands, my hair, my mouth.  None that came before, none that live today, and none that come tomorrow can walk and talk and move and think exactly like me.  All men are my brothers yet I am different from each.  I am a unique creature.  I am nature’s greatest miracle.
~ Og Mandino

These words have spoken to me this week.  Not in a subtle, quiet, whispering voice, but a loud, booming, in-your-face voice that forced me to stand up and pay attention.

Why?

My whole life I’ve felt out of place.

Different.

As a young child I wasn’t allowed to play with the kids in my neighborhood because we “lived in a bad part of town.”  I went to a private school, and none of the kids that went there lived near me.  (I refer you back to the fact that we lived in a bad part of town.)

So I was isolated.  I was alone.  Books, music, and TV were my friends.  (Perhaps that’s why I think in songs and movie quotes, and tend to sprinkle them into conversation often.)

Even though my family later moved to a “good” part of town, I never got past those feelings of isolation and being different.  (I also never got past quoting books, music, and movies…but that’s not the point.)

Throughout high school, college, grad school, and even to this very day I’ve always felt like “there’s no one like me.”

I think different.

I act different.

I AM different.

I could have embraced my uniqueness…

…but I didn’t.

Instead I felt left out.  Isolated.  Alone.

Many times I was made to feel like my uniqueness was odd, weird, or just plain wrong.  To quote a “classic” phrase from my youth, I felt like people were essentially saying:

Well, because these feelings have been bubbling up this week, I’ve been flipping through my “flash cards” more often, and you know what?

It’s made me realize I Don’t Give a Damn About My Reputation, because I am Whole, Perfect, Strong, Powerful, Loving, Harmonious, and Happy.

I am ME.

And I am UNIQUE.

 

Week 11 – I Don’t Give a Damn About My Reputation

You may be wondering about the title of this post…

Or you may be wondering about ME for making a post with this title…

That’s OK…

‘CAUSE I DON’T GIVE A DAMN ABOUT MY REPUTATION!

Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you REALLY are, while your reputation is merely what others THINK you are.    ~ John Wooden

Since the last few years have been “character-building years” for me, this quote really struck a chord.  Now, combine that with my being a child of the 80s, and what do you get?

I’ve liked Joan Jett’s music since the “I Love Rock n Roll” album debuted in 1981.  I didn’t realize until this week that the band was rejected by 23 record labels.

Does the phrase “I will persist until I succeed” mean anything to you?  Oh, hell to the yeah!

But I digress…

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What truly impacted me this week was the importance of character.  I’ve always valued character, along with it’s twin sister integrity, and it’s a line I just don’t cross.  Furthermore, I don’t associate with those that cross the line.

Yet over the past few years I’ve struggled with maintaining my character and integrity and doing what is right…not because I didn’t want to…but because I did.

I was tempted (oh-so-many times) to loosen the reigns on my character after watching the “success” of another individual who believed in “winning at all costs,” regardless of the casualties left in their wake.

As a result,

My reputation suffered.  My confidence suffered.  My business suffered.

But my CHARACTER remained intact.  Neither my body nor my mind could take actions that went against my character, because that’s who I REALLY AM.  And I’m a better person for it.  I can look myself in the eye every evening and say – with confidence – I LOVE YOU, STACY RYAN!  (And mean it.)

I can rebuild a reputation.  I have the knowledge, the tools, and, thankfully, my confidence has returned from it’s sabbatical.

Character is everything.

So yeah,

I DON’T GIVE A DAMN ABOUT MY REPUTATION!  (Oh, no…not me!)