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Week 23 – Love is All You Need Part 2

A few weeks ago I watched the movie “I Am” by Tom Shadyac, and then wrote the blog post Love is All You Need.

That movie and the blog post I wrote apparently made a BIG impression on my subconscious.

My fiancé and I had been searching for a place to get married this fall.  We’re eloping, or having an “intimate wedding for two,” depending on what facility we’re speaking with.

We both wanted something simple…just the two of us…in a vineyard.  Something intimate, romantic, and all about us and the love we share.

Our first choice of location was outside the budget we were comfortable with…$3,200 to hold our wedding for two in the vineyard.  And that was just the fee for the location…everything else, including a required wedding planner, would be extra.  {Sigh.}  We were pretty disappointed to say the least.  Now I needed to find a backup plan.

If the MKMMA process has taught me anything, it’s the importance of having a Positive Mental Attitude (PMA).  So we held our heads high, confident that a location would  reveal itself as the perfect location for us to commit to each other as husband and wife.

The phrases “All we need is love.” and “I greet this day with love in my heart.” kept running through my head, both consciously and subconsciously.

Two weeks later something magical happened.

I saw this image on the Internet:

LOVE at Paradise Ridge

I was IMMEDIATELY drawn to this image, and thought “I LOVE that!  Where is it?  Wouldn’t it be great if it was at a vineyard in California?”  So I did some research, and found an image of a bride and groom with the sign.  “That’s so PERFECT for a wedding!  Where IS this place?  I want to get married there!”

And that’s when it happened.  I found where the LOVE sign is located:  Paradise Ridge Winery in Santa Rosa, California.  In Sonoma County…which is where we planned to elope!

Ooooooohhhh…now I’m getting excited!

I contact them to inquire about their elopement packages and find that the prices are very reasonable — for the location only, as well as the complete elopement package with everything we would need for our big day.

The excitement is building!

And then it hits me…“Hmmmm…How are the wines?”  (My fiancé and I are both wine lovers, so it’s important to us that the wines are good.)  I couldn’t find much information about the wines online.  Everyone raved about the beautiful location, but not much was written about the wine.

A search on my favorite liquor store’s website came up empty as well.  (Their main location carries enough wine to fill 3 Olympic-sized pools, so if anyone would have it, it would be them.  But no…)

I even made a post on Facebook asking if anyone had been to the winery.  But no one had.  Not even wine lovers who lived in the California wine country!  This could be very good, or very bad.

Still keeping a positive mental attitude about everything,  I thought “We’ve found a hidden gem…a winery with good wines that is a well-kept “secret.”

My fiancé and I love the setting, but we’re not quite ready to commit until we taste the wines.  So we decide we’re going to order some.  Their website lists several wines on their “Current Wine” list, yet only a few are available for sale on the website.  So we decide to wait and call with an order, hoping we’ll be able to get some additional choices.

And then some more magic happened.  

We’re at our favorite liquor store, in the wine department, and I turned my head and saw…Paradise Ridge Cabernet Sauvignon, Winemaker Select!

I blink.  I rub my eyes.  I think I’m dreaming!  I read the sign below the wine, and it says that only 28 cases of the wine were allocated for the entire state of Texas.  And there are 8 bottles on the shelf, at $66 each.  (OUCH!  That’s more than we normally spend on a bottle of wine, but I guess we can bite the bullet for “research.”)

My fiancé comes over to see what has me so excited.  And that’s when I notice there was an empty space next to the wine for ANOTHER Paradise Ridge Cabernet Sauvignon…but it was sold out.  (Apparently a great bargain at $45 a bottle.)

One of the employees in the wine department approaches and asks if we need any assistance, and I say “We’re thinking about getting married at Paradise Ridge, but have never tried their wine, so I am excited to see it here since it’s not on your website.”

His response:  “Great choice!  They have some excellent wines, and we get very small allocations.  We also carry their Pinot Noir and Chardonnay, but we may be sold out of those, as well.”   Sure enough, they were sold out of the Pinot Noir, but they had 2 bottles of Chardonnay left on the shelf.  SOLD!

Now we’re BOTH excited.  And a little nervous.  These two bottles of wine have the power to make our break our decision.

So we buy two bottles of Paradise Ridge wines.  Wines that the store’s website didn’t say they carried.  Wines that I wasn’t looking for.  Wines that I just “found” by chance.

And you know what?  They’re very good wines.  Wines that were good to the last sip.

So with that, the decision was made.  We’ll be getting married later this year in our own little paradise — AT Paradise — with LOVE in our hearts.

All we needed was love.  And we found it.  (A pretty big “LOVE,” too!)

 

 

Week 21 – Love Is All You Need

On a cold and rainy day, do you ever just feel like curling up on the couch, lighting a fire in the fireplace, popping some gourmet popcorn, and watching a movie?

Well…that was definitely me today!

What shall I watch today…comedy?  No.  Action?  No.  Drama?  No…

Nothing seemed “just right.”

And then I saw these two little powerful words that spoke to me:  I AM.

“That’s it!”  I thought…I AM.

I AM is a documentary by Tom Shadyac.  You may or may not know his name, but you’re probably familiar with his movies, which include Ace Ventura, The Nutty Professor, I Now Pronounce You Chuck & Larry, Patch Adams, and Bruce Almighty, (to name a few).

And then he suffered a “nasty concussion” as a result of a biking accident.  During his recovery, he began to question his life, his priorities, and the world around us.   So he set out with a film crew of four to interview authors, journalists, historians, scientists, and academics in search of answers the following questions:

  • What’s wrong with our world?
  • What can we do about it?

There are several lessons to be learned in this documentary.  These are the ones that really spoke to me:

Together or Separate?

There is something fundamentally different between machines and life…you can disassemble a piece of machinery and put it back together and it works just fine, but you can’t disassemble a living thing and put it back together and have it work just fine.

Yet we are running our society as if we are pieces of a machine…and the world is a machine.

TRUTH MOMENT:  I spent years on the hamster wheel that is corporate America.  Going to work day in, day out, just doing my job…just another cog in the wheel.  Many days I felt like a robot could have done my job…and I’m probably right.  There was no heart…no soul…in the job.

Wealth AND Happiness vs. Wealth OR Happiness?

Iconic Slogan by Barbara Kruger
Iconic Slogan by Barbara Kruger

Our society places a high value on “stuff.”  In fact, wealth and happiness are in many ways synonymous in our society.  Yet “stuff” doesn’t make us any happier.

Think about it:  have you ever noticed how many people are UNhappy in heir lives, even though they seem to have it all?

At any given point in our life we have a certain amount of stuff.  If we had 10x more stuff, would we be 10x happier?

Society would make us believe that’s the case.  Oh, and by the way, I’m a marketing professional…I’ve been making people believe they need stuff for DECADES!  But I’m not alone in that venture…

  • In the movie Wall Street, Gordon Gekko says the famous line:  “Greed, for lack of a better word, is good.”  
  • George Carlin had a whole sketch on “Stuff” that’s pretty funny (and not safe for work!)
  • When many people get depressed or upset, they opt for “Retail Therapy.”
  • And even a whole movie about consumerism, and “Keeping Up With The Joneses

TRUTH MOMENT:  I must admit, I watched this documentary right after a shopping trip to Costco…home of the “gotta have it now, and gotta have lots of it now” stuff.   Even if that “stuff” is food and cleaning products my family uses on a daily basis…and some wine.  🙂  But now I’m thinking about all the times I’ve said to myself “If I only had ____, I’d be happy.”  And I wasn’t.

Have a Heart!

3314737024_4ea1f1671f_zMy favorite part of the documentary is learning that we – as a human race – are HEART based.  By that I mean that the heart is the access point to our higher self.  What’s interesting is that the heart just might be able to predict the future.  [Studies have shown that the heart knows what’s going to happen 3-5 seconds into the future.]

Because we’re all interconnected at a fundamental level, our thoughts and emotions affect the thoughts and emotions of others.  What we do as individuals affects the global environment…the world we live in.

And that means that everyday acts — even small acts — can build up over time into a great movement.  If you change your perceptions the world changes.

TRUTH MOMENT:  Throughout the MKMMA course, I’ve been experiences changes that have been small, incremental, and nearly imperceptible (at least to me)…but the grand sum of ALL these changes has been noticed by the people closest to me.

Love is All You Need

Tom Shadyac may have set out to discover what was wrong with the world…but instead he learned what was right with it.

  • The science of connection and unity.
  • The universal nature of compassion and empathy.
  • The mystery and magic of the human heart.

What’s wrong with the world?

I am.

[Yikes!  That doesn’t feel good, does it?]

So how about what’s RIGHT with the world?

I AM.

I love that!  And…

All You Need Is Love.  Love Is All You Need.  John Lennon